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- Success isn’t about copying other people’s habits, or following one prescriptive path. The surest way to find success is to avoid being unsuccessful.
- Unsuccessful people aren’t able to focus on the present, instead constantly distracted by what’s to come or what’s already happened.
- They only listen to themselves, and don’t take the opportunity to learn or try new things.
Do you really think you’ll be successful if you simply copy other people’s habits? If that was the case, success would be easy.
I never met a successful person until I was 24. I grew up in a working-class family — I was more around people who were the opposite.
The first successful person I met was ME ! I am not just talking about riches in money but success at life but most success full people have full bank accounts and extra full lives and yes don’t tolerate fools either .
We have to let go of the “if I do x, I’ll be successful or happy” way of thinking. It does exactly the opposite: You do what other people do. Live the way other people live. I might not know a lot about success, but I’m sure as hell that’s not success.
What follows is a list of things that we shouldn’t do. If you have one of these bad habits, don’t worry; no one’s perfect. If you have two bad habits, you should worry. Do you have three or more? You might want to change — because one thing is sure: No one wants to be unsuccessful.
1. They’re always distracted
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Essentialism, by Greg McKeown, is one of my favorite books. McKeown shares the story of when he met his former classmate, years after graduating.
He told McKeown that he was in between jobs and asked if McKeown could help him. Twenty seconds into the conversation the guy got a text and started looking down to his phone and started responding.
McKeown says: “Ten seconds went by. Then twenty. I simply stood there as he continued to text away furiously.” After two minutes he gave up and walked away from the obsessive texter.
Don’t live your life in the future or past, lost in thoughts and worry. If that guy from the example was present, he might have got an awesome job recommendation from Greg McKeown.
2. They only talk the talk
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You know what’s better than talking about something? Doing it.
In 2010, Derek Sivers gave a TED talk called “Keep your goals to yourself,” where he presented scientific evidence that talking about your goals is counterproductive.
We see it all the time in real life and on social media: “I’m training for a marathon.” “I’m starting a business.”
The crazy thing is how people react. They applaud you for announcing something. Let’s pause for a second: Saying you want to run a marathon and actually running a marathon are two different things, right?
In your brain, those things are actually not that far apart. Derek Sivers says:
“When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called a ‘social reality.’ The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done. And then because you’ve felt that satisfaction, you’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.”
Be someone that does things, not someone who talks about things.
3. They spend time with losers
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Spend enough time with losers, and you’ll become one. Apply this analogy to any type of person.
Do you want to get fit? Hang out with fit people. People feed off each other’s energy.
What’s better, your friend asking when you’re going to the gym, or your friend asking to go out for the third time that week?
4. They hate everything
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They especially hate people that are doing well. Why can’t you be happy for other people? Don’t worry, you won’t be aPollyanna. You can still be cool and be positive.
Give people some love, it won’t kill you. Unsuccessful people even hate things that just “are.”
“Ugh, it rained this morning, and my hair got all messed up. I hate rain.” Common, really?
Having a bad day is okay — everyone gets irritable once in a while. But if you always hate everything, you’ll have a bad life.
5. They procrastinate
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What’s the benefit of putting things off? I once asked my college professor to extend a deadline for an essay.
He said: “I’m perfectly happy to extend your deadline by a week. The only thing I’m asking you is will your essay be better if you hand it in a week from now?”
My answer was “no,” so I worked my ass off to finish it on time. Only delay things when you’ll do a better job later.
What’s the point of delaying something if you get the same outcome? Do it now, or do it better later.
6. They don’t listen to others
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Unsuccessful people love themselves. To be honest, we all love ourselves, but if you’re unsuccessful, you ONLY love yourself.
We listen to others because we care about them. How else can you show you care? Everyone can give a hug, but not everybody calls you just to ask “How are you?” Ask, listen, care, repeat.
7. They’re lazy
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Never feel like doing anything? We’ve all been there: Not feeling like going to dinner with your partner, or not feeling like buying an awesome present for your mother’s birthday. Let’s face it, it’s all because you’re lazy.
Be a sport and get off your couch — participate with your family, friends, partner. The beauty of life lies in new and novel experiences.
When you’re lazy, you don’t even give yourself a chance to experience new things. It’s also not fair to the people in your life.
8. They don’t learn
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Learning is one of the most difficult things in the world. It’s not a surprise many people never read a book, never finish school, or never learn from their mistakes. Learning is a struggle.
But think about it: We live in the most exciting time in history for learners. The access to information has never been this easy. In the past, if your dad was a farmer, you became a farmer. Things were like that.
Now, you can be anything you wish — you just need to learn how to do it.
9. They are not nice
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Somehow, people think it’s cool to be a jerk. Honestly, it’s way cooler to be nice. You don’t have to be a Buddhist Monk or anything, just be a nice person.
Try it some time, you might make a few new friends. And if you have difficulty defining what a “nice person” is, you’re likely a jerk.
10. They are quitters
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I saved the worst for last. If there’s one thing you take away from this article, I hope it’s this:
There’s nothing I can add to that. Actually, there is: never give up.
If you do give up gravity will do the rest it will come back to you …that’s a take down you don’t want to miss
Give down to to the unsuccessfull people that is 🙂